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Social Media Ruined My Marriage But Helped My Divorce

May 20, 2014

social-media-icons.jpgIn this day in age, social media seems to run our lives. We wake up in the morning and check our Facebook account. We upload a photo of our breakfast to Instagram. And we tweet about how our day at work is going. Social media sites like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter seem to dictate how we run our lives. Accessing these social media sites is as easy as a click of a button on your smartphone. Well it turns out that social media is not only running our lives, but also playing a part in both ruining our marriages and helping our divorces.

Divorce attorneys commonly note that irreconcilable differences are the reason for the divorce. Research has shown that these commonly used digital communications may be the culprit of the "irreconcilable differences" that develop between spouses. Social media websites are so easily accessible and so often used that they not only help create relationships but they also play a role in destroying relationships. For instance, due to the anonymity on some of the sites and the often encouraged non face-to-face contact, people seem to be more susceptible to temptations. Old flames tend to resurface or new flames are more likely to continue because retrieving contact information is so easy and opens the door to further communication. Social media sites also often times open the door to arguments because things posted by one spouse are misinterpreted by the other spouse. A harmless remark by one spouse may cause the other spouse to have major suspicions begin stirring. In essence, these social media sites are the culprit in facilitating emotional and physical affairs among married people.

social-media.jpgHowever, after a relationship ends and a divorce begins, social media may play a big role in helping your divorce litigation. Many San Diego divorce attorneys note that their clients are closely monitoring the social media sites of their soon to be ex-spouse. Not only are they reading what their soon to be ex-spouse has to say or photos he/she has to post, but they are taking screen shots of the social media page and downloading photos the spouse has uploaded onto the site. Spouses are noting down anything and everything that might impact their divorce proceeding, especially with regard to child custody determinations and hidden assets. Thus, spouses should be conscientious of what they post while participating in social media during divorce litigation.

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Celebrity Divorce - Jason Aldean Divorcing Wife Based on Irreconcilable Differences

May 15, 2013

Jason Aldean Celebrity DivorceBack in September 2012, Jason Aldean was caught kissing previous American Idol contestant, turned NBA-cheerleader, Brittany Kerr. However, this kiss turned into quite the smooching scandal considering Aldean has been married for over 11 years to teenage-sweetheart, Jessica Ussery. Not surprisingly, Aldean recently filed for divorce in Tennessee. TMZ reports that the couple cited "irreconcilable differences" as the reason for the split.

As San Diego attorneys know, one of the only two grounds for divorce here in California is "irreconcilable differences (see website page entitled "Grounds for Divorce or Legal Separation" for more details on both "irreconcilable differences" and "incurable insanity"). It is quite common for divorcing couples to cite "irreconcilable differences" as their reason for their divorce, but what really constitutes an "irreconcilable difference"? Is it more than just one spouse cheating on the other?

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Although infidelity alone may seem like a pretty good reason for divorce, such infidelity must lead to "irreconcilable differences" between the couple since California is a no-fault state. (See website page entitled "Grounds for Divorce or Legal Separation" for more details on "no-fault"). In general, "irreconcilable differences means that the spouses can no longer agree on basic, fundamental issues involving the marriage and that they will never agree, such that there is no chance of reconciliation. Thus, when a divorce is based on "irreconcilable differences," any past cheating scandal by one spouse doesn't matter, what matters is that one or both spouses agree that the marriage won't work any longer and that it's clear to a judge that there is no chance that the marriage can be saved.

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There is no black-letter list of what constitutes "irreconcilable differences." Rather, it is a quite vague standard and San Diego Family Courts often broadly interpret "irreconcilable differences". Some of factors that San Diego courts may look at to determine if there has been a marriage breakdown may include: 1) difference of interests; 2) long physical separation; 3) antagonistic feelings that are irreversible; 4) resentment; 5) distrust; 6) financial difficulties affecting the marriage; 7) conflict of personality; and 8) lack of mutual concern for emotional needs of each other.

Divorce Irreconcilable differencesAlthough Aldean has urged everyone not to cast judgment on his recent filing for divorce, one can only assume that Aldean's smooching scandal with Kerr likely led to distrust, resentment and irreversible antagonistic feelings between Aldean and Ussery, thus leading to what a court will likely interpret to constitute "irreconcilable differences".

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Oprah Winfrey, her Father's Divorce, and Evictions

November 6, 2012

Oprah Winfrey has become entangled in her father Vernon Winfrey's divorce. Vernon married his current wife, Barbara Winfrey, in 2000. Vernon's divorce papers contain allegations that Barbara engaged in "inappropriate marital conduct," which refers to an extramarital affair. In her response, Barbara accuses Vernon of violent outbursts including an incident where he chased her with a gun and threatened to pull the trigger.

During their marriage, the couple has enjoyed living in a $1.4 million dollar home in Nashville. The home is owned by a trust, which was created and funded by Oprah. Vernon filed for divorce in Franklin, Tennessee in June of 2012. As a result of the divorce process, the Davidson County Sheriff's deputies had an order to evict Ashley Williams, Oprah's stepsister, from the Winfrey marital residence. However, the attorney for the trust had the order rescinded. The relationship between Oprah and Barbara seems beyond repair; however, that tension does not seem to extend to Oprah's relationship with her stepsister.

According to the court papers, Barbara is seeking spousal support from Vernon and, although she pays no mortgage or rent, she claims her living expenses amount to $11,924 per month. Vernon claims that he has no financial ability to provide support to Barbara and, after bills each month, he is only left with approximately $282.33.

Unlike in California, Tennessee allows both "fault" and "no-fault" divorces. The no-fault grounds for a Tennessee divorce are: (1) irreconcilable differences and (2) spouses are not cohabitating and have lived in separate residences for at least two years. The fault grounds for a Tennessee divorce include: (1) either spouse has committed adultery (2) economic fault and (3) domestic violence. The Winfrey divorce papers seem to allege both adultery and domestic violence. Both parties deny the allegations against them and they may have been made to gain an advantage in the dissolution process. Economic fault can have a significant impact on the division of the marital estate.

In Tennessee, the court will consider sixteen factors when making an award of spousal support. Because it seems that the Winfrey's did not own much property, support will likely be the most litigated issue in their case. One of the factors considered by Tennessee courts is "the marital conduct of the parties during marriage." This is evidence of the fault aspect of Tennessee divorce law. In California, the only marital conduct that is relevant when setting spousal support is domestic violence. Extramarital affairs are irrelevant to the court's consideration of spousal support.

Please contact us if you are considering a divorce from your spouse, a legal separation, or have questions regarding child custody and visitation. Nancy J. Bickford is the only lawyer in San Diego County representing clients in divorces, who is a Certified Family Law Specialist (CFLS) and who is actively licensed as a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). Don't settle for less when determining your rights. Call 858-793-8884 in Del Mar, Carmel Valley, North County or San Diego.

Katy Perry and Russell Brand Finalize Divorce

August 15, 2012

On December 30, 2011 Russell Brand filed for divorce from pop icon, Katy Perry. After only 14 months of marriage Brand cited "irreconcilable differences" as the reason for the split. The couple married on October 23, 2010 in an extravagant ceremony in India. When the pending divorce caught the attention of the media Brand released the following statement: "Sadly, Katy and I are ending our marriage. I'll always adore her and I know we'll remain friends." The divorce petition does not list a date of separation for the couple. However, it is undisputed that Perry earned approximately $44 million during their short marriage.

Once Russell filed for divorce, rumors swirled about whether the Hollywood couple had signed a premarital agreement. The Perry-Brand divorce was finalized on July 16, 2012 and it is clear that no premarital agreement was signed. The pair reached a marital settlement agreement in February; however, were required to wait the requisite six-month period before obtaining a legal divorce. In San Diego, there is a mandatory six-month period between the date of service of the divorce petition and the termination of marital status. Apparently the marriage happened so quickly that neither star had the time to consult an attorney before tying the not.

Under California community property laws, all property acquired by either spouse during the marriage but before the date of separation is community property. Each spouse is entitled to one-half of each community property asset upon divorce. Although the Perry-Brand date of separation is unknown, Perry earned $44 million of community property during the marriage. All earnings of either spouse during marriage are community property. With no premarital agreement, Brand would likely be awarded one-half of Perry's earnings by a family court judge applying California community property laws. However, Perry and Brand negotiated their own marital settlement agreement.

In a San Diego divorce, the parties have the option to negotiate a settlement agreement. This gives both spouses an opportunity to suggest creative solutions and trade offers in order to come up with a mutually beneficial bargain. The court is limited in the orders it can make and settlement gives the parties more freedom and control to agree to a global settlement of all issues. Shockingly, Brand refused to accept his $22 million portion of Perry's earnings. Neither party regrets their hasty marriage and would not enter into a premarital agreement if given a second chance. According to Perry, her and Brand trusted each other to be fair in the event of divorce and neither worried about reaching a settlement. Perry hopes to be an example to her fans and encourage them to reach peaceful solutions to problems and confront difficulties in life gracefully.

Please contact us if you are considering a divorce from your spouse, a legal separation, or have questions regarding child custody and visitation. Nancy J. Bickford is the only attorney in San Diego County representing clients in divorces, who is a Certified Family Law Specialist (CFLS) and who is actively licensed as a Certified Public Accountant (CPA). Don't settle for less when determining your rights. Call 858-793-8884 in Del Mar, Carmel Valley, North County or San Diego.

California: Grounds for Divorce in a No-Fault Divorce State

952313_gavel.jpgAs reported in The San Francisco Chronicle, retired San Francisco judge Isabella Horton Grant died of cancer on Saturday at age 87.

Judge Grant made many contributions to family law, including her participation in the drafting and passage of California's no-fault divorce rule, which went into effect January 1, 1970 with the enactment of the Family Law Act of 1969.

Prior to the enactment of California's no-fault divorce rule, the moving party in a divorce was a plaintiff who charged the other spouse, as a defendant, with being "at fault" for the divorce for reasons such as adultery, abuse, etc.

With no-fault divorce, a judgment of dissolution of marriage may be granted simply based on irreconcilable differences. Family Code section 2310. Irreconcilable differences are defined by Family Code section 2311 as "those grounds which are determined by the court to be substantial reasons for not continuing the marriage and which make it appear that the marriage should be dissolved".

Just what grounds will a court determine to be substantial reasons for not continuing the marriage and which make it appear that the marriage should be dissolved? To meet the statutory requirements, there must exist "substantial marital problems which have so impaired the marriage relationship that the legitimate objects of matrimony have been destroyed and as to which there is no reasonable possibility of elimination, correction or resolution." In Marriage of Walton (1972) 28 CA3d 108, 118.

As a practical matter, in my experience as a San Diego divorce attorney, I have never had a court deny a request to dissolve a marriage based on irreconcilable differences.